Say YES to YOU
Yes. Yes. Yes. When is the last time you said no to something in order to say yes to you? Life wouldn’t be balanced if we only said no, but it can be self-destructive if we always say yes (especially in those moments when you know, for the sake of your sanity, you should say no).
Let’s start with the basics, why do we say yes? …is it a habit, the fear of disappointing others, our default answer under pressure, are we afraid of what will happen if we say no? Make this month NOvember!
Don’t use this month as a reason to say no to everything (although #mood), but rather a time to fully understand why you say yes or no. Evaluate your heart and intention behind the decision to say yes or no.
Research suggests that women tend to have a more difficult time saying no and are often judged when they do (as a woman, I support this statement). It’s difficult to say no, especially when you’re put on-the-spot unexpectedly and living under social pressures! I’m sure everyone would agree that saying yes is the easier answer in the moment, but usually requires a more difficult follow-up process.
How to say “no” when needed:
Take time to evaluate how much “yes” your life can handle.
(this will help for those “answer on-the-spot” moments)
Determine if you need to take back a “yes” you said but didn’t mean.
(retracting a “yes” you previously said can be intimidating and may not always be an option, but, when available, take the opportunity to replace it with a “no” for your own well-being)
Be vulnerable and transparent.
“Are you okay?” is almost always responded to with “yes.” How many times have you wanted to say “no”? Sometimes saying no will require us to be vulnerable and transparent so others can understand the reasoning behind our answer.
Post-pone the “yes.”
Maybe in that exact moment all that can be said is “no,” but this does not eliminate the possibility of a future “yes.”
P.S. I know you’re a hustler so #yes is what you do, but saying no is not as scary as it seems. I promise.
xoxo